So about a week ago it was my 23rd Birthday!! And couldn’t have asked for anything better than having a lovely weekend at home and spending time with my family. Turning 23 has got me thinking about all the things I have learnt and although 23 is still young and I have yet to learnI think but I’ve learnt a fair amount by now. So here is 23 I have learnt in my 23 years.
1). People will hurt you
Whether they mean to or not, or whether its someone you’re close to or not or whether it was something little or big. You will get hurt and the best thing you can do is put your head up high and learn from it.
2.) You don’t have to know what you want to do
When you leave school/ college or university it is completely ok and normal to not know what you want to do. You’re allowed to change your mind. Your interests change with age and other oppertunities come up. So don’t be afraid to change if its what you want to do.
3.) Be kind and smile
Treat others the way you want to be treated. You may not be in a great mood but there’s never a need to take that out on other people.
4.) You never really know…
You will never know how someone is truly feeling. like I said above be kind and treat others how you want to and never judge someone until you’ve walked in someone;s shoes.
5.) Family are everything
Living away from home and recently losing a grandparent I have learnt this lesson the difficult way. Growing up I took my parents/family for granted but ever since moving away I’ve learnt the importance of family. You may not see eye to eye but thats ok – its normal but it’s so important to keep in touch, visit them/call them because you never know what could happen. Thank them for what they sacrifice to make sure you’re happy.
6.) Life is what you make of it
If you’re not happy or want something then the only person who can make that happen is YOU. and no one else. If you want to be in a career, a better relationship or even learn a new hobby then go out and reach for it. Life is what you make of it and opportunities don’t just happen. You have to make them happen.
7.) Everybody has problems
You may think you’re the only person with problems but that is not the case. Everybody has stuff going on in their lives. Some just hide it better. but one thing to remember is that EVERYONE’S PROBLEMS ARE REAL! whether they seem silly to you they’re not to that person so be senstive and understanding. If someone opens up to you listen and acknowledge their problems.
8.) Overthinking doesn’t end well
Overthinking is never good. It can just make you feel awful, put you in a negative mood and, from experience, impact relationships/friendships. Just got to go with the flow. things are never what you make out to be. what happens happens – learn from it.
9.) Its important to eat.
This may seem silly but the amount of times I have stopped myself eating or not finishing my meals because I thought it would help me lose weight. When in reality is that it is the worse thing. You need to eat, by not doing it you only feel weak,tired and increase the risk of putting on weight when you do eat.
10.) You can’t change people
Trying to control the people around you into something they are not is pointless and just a waste of time. People are who they are and you can’t please everyone and if they’re not someone you want to be around then leave and say bye.
11.) You are your biggest critic
There’s no one out there who will judge you expect you. Sometimes you’ve got to cut youself some slack. Everybody is different and beautiful in their own way.
12.) Its okay to cry
This is not understood enough I think. If you’re feeling down its ok to cry. It’s good to let things out. it can be make you feel so much better after.
13.) Surround yourself with good people
You want to be around people who make you feel happier and who build you up. People who will support you no matter what your choices.
14.) Save Money
You want to start saving money as early as possible. for that be emergencies or to help you move on in life (for example, deposit for a house etc)
15.) Not everyone is perfect.
People make silly mistakes and often do something bad/they shouldn’t have but that doesn’t make them a horrible person but only human.
16.) Just say yes
Saying yes to more opportunities that you would have normally said no to can improve anxiety and confidence. It gives the chance to meet so many new people and experience so many new things. whats the worst that can happen?
17.) Failure is normal
Nobody is perfect. Sometimes things go well and you succeed however, someones you fail. It’s normal and you’re only human. It doesn’t say any less of you and if anyone judges you then screw them.
18. ) Remember the small things
Often the smallest things im life can make you the happiest. Dance around to music, sing as loud as you can, spend time with friends and laugh until you cry!
19.) Go on adventures
Make a list of all the places you want to go and travel as much as possible. Whether it be in the same country to see friends or across the world to somewhere completely new!
20.) Everything happens for a reason
Whether it’s good or bad everything that has happened to you for a reasons. its what shapes us into the person we are today. Go with the flow!
You don’t have to go extreme and go for a mile long run every morning but little bits of exercise is so good to imporve mood, confidence and general fitness. Whether it be a small run, a long walk, swimming or joining a gym…it will help you in the long run.
22.) Be yourself
Don’t let anyone control you. Be you want to be…dress how you want, listen/watch what you want to and don’t let anyone bring you down for doing what makes you happy. You are perfect how you are!
23.) There’s so much more to learn
You will continue to learn and make mistakes but you’ll grow and be an even better person than you already you